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Perspective and Parties: #WeekendCoffeeShare

The last week has been one of tremendous highs and lows.

On Thursday it was Biggest’s 3rd birthday. I can’t believe I am the mother of a 3-year-old. At all. When you are pregnant for the first time you mentally set yourself up for having a baby for a long time. You acknowledge you’ll have a toddler, teenager and adult child at some point, but all three are elusive and in some distant destination you have lightyears to go before reaching.

And then, all of a sudden, some thief, called Time, steals away the baby you nurtured and presents you with a new child, who you already love dearly, but have to get to know all over again.

Repeat in various increments of time for eternity.


Preparations were well under way and we had planned to have a mini party at my mum’s the day before, followed by a visit a trampoline park on her actual birthday.

The mini party went swimmingly and she loved every minute.

Only, before we reached my mum’s, Danny called me to tell me this had happened:

Frig on a stick. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

A van had hit him on his way to work on Wednesday morning. The driver had left their indicator on and then not turned.

Both of them walked away unharmed, save for a bump to the head and whiplash on Danny’s part, but maybe half a metre more could have been a very different story, as the van had hit Danny’s driver’s side.

Needless to say, I was in internal turmoil after he first called, relieved he was ok, devastated it had happened and heartbroken that he was alone (but grateful the kids weren’t in the car).

The car is actually being repaired so we expect it back sometime next week, but the car, the insurance, the money….none of it is remotely important. What is important is that everyone walked away and a daddy and his daughter got to spend her 3rd birthday together.

It was one of those moments that really kicked me in the posterior and made me realise just how many little things I stress over that don’t actually matter to what’s important. I decided to keep the photo on my phone as a morbid reminder, anytime I feel myself spiralling in some first world problem-overwhelmed tunnel.

I’ve always hated careless driving but what upsets me most isn’t so much the arrogance of it as the fact that unsafe drivers are not only risking their own lives but also endangering the lives of little girl’s fathers the day before their 3rd birthdays.

Please drive safely. Always.


Many thanks to Nerd In The Brain for hosting the #WeekendCoffeeShare, a collective of chats over digital coffee among bloggers. To find out more, click the image below and to see the other shares in this week’s collective, go here.


23 thoughts on “Perspective and Parties: #WeekendCoffeeShare

  1. So glad it wasn’t worse!! And you’re right, situations like this do put things in perspective. Perhaps that is why they happen. ?? Glad everyone is safe and fun was had at the birthday party.. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. So glad everyone was ok. Those that drive carelessly really don’t think beyond their own nose. My 21 year old son was hit recently by a driver who got behinds the wheel after spending the day in the bar. His blood/alcohol level was three times the legal limit here in the U.S.! Luckily everyone was fine but I felt the same way. So very selfish on the part of the drunk driver.

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  3. Time does fly and children grow up before your eyes but even so it is a shock. I'[m glad she had a happy 3rd birthday and her daddy was able to attend uninjured. You are right that these things really serve to show us what is important in life. A pity they have to happen at the hands of incompetents or those under some kind of influence. Glad everyone is okay.

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  4. Time is indeed a thief! Each new milestone hits you in the gut!
    I am so very happy all were okay and it was mostly material damage. Does definitely put things into perspective, that’s for sure!

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  5. I’m glad he is ok and the party was a great success. Sometimes things just go wrong with accidents, but all too often, a phone, not paying attention or carelessness definitely are the reasons. If I’m ever tempted to be distracted, the thought “is it that important” runs through my mind. If it is, I pull into a parking lot. When it isn’t, which is almost every single time, I get refocused an keep driving.

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