The last week has been one of tremendous highs and lows.
On Thursday it was Biggest’s 3rd birthday. I can’t believe I am the mother of a 3-year-old. At all. When you are pregnant for the first time you mentally set yourself up for having a baby for a long time. You acknowledge you’ll have a toddler, teenager and adult child at some point, but all three are elusive and in some distant destination you have lightyears to go before reaching.
Repeat in various increments of time for eternity.
Preparations were well under way and we had planned to have a mini party at my mum’s the day before, followed by a visit a trampoline park on her actual birthday.
The mini party went swimmingly and she loved every minute.
Only, before we reached my mum’s, Danny called me to tell me this had happened:
A van had hit him on his way to work on Wednesday morning. The driver had left their indicator on and then not turned.
Both of them walked away unharmed, save for a bump to the head and whiplash on Danny’s part, but maybe half a metre more could have been a very different story, as the van had hit Danny’s driver’s side.
Needless to say, I was in internal turmoil after he first called, relieved he was ok, devastated it had happened and heartbroken that he was alone (but grateful the kids weren’t in the car).
The car is actually being repaired so we expect it back sometime next week, but the car, the insurance, the money….none of it is remotely important. What is important is that everyone walked away and a daddy and his daughter got to spend her 3rd birthday together.
It was one of those moments that really kicked me in the posterior and made me realise just how many little things I stress over that don’t actually matter to what’s important. I decided to keep the photo on my phone as a morbid reminder, anytime I feel myself spiralling in some first world problem-overwhelmed tunnel.
I’ve always hated careless driving but what upsets me most isn’t so much the arrogance of it as the fact that unsafe drivers are not only risking their own lives but also endangering the lives of little girl’s fathers the day before their 3rd birthdays.
Please drive safely. Always.
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